i've gotten this in my email a couple times in the past
i just got it again today
it's a good read so i'm sharing it with y'all
The 90/10 Principle
Have you read this before? Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react.You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush
upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Thursday, March 29, 2007
i've gotten this in my email a couple times in the past
Wednesday, March 28, 2007
when we went to taitung last month... ivan's family, especially his cousin, showed us great hospitality
his cousin, who serves full-time in taiwan's air force, was in town this past weekend so we wanted to return the favor... plus wifey and i wanted to do a little celebration of our own
we went to jolly brewery in taipei
they brew their own beer and it was some pretty good beer
i had more than i should have had, but it just was some pretty good beer
what can i say?
i love beer!
despite the little episode with austin powers, we had a jolly good time at jolly's...
a couple of these...
a few more of these... and i was feeling very tipsy
beer drinking contest... and no, none of us joined
more pics here...http://andresyu.spaces.live.com/photos/
Tuesday, March 27, 2007
i'm not a racist
let me just get that out of the way first before i'm called one
most foreigners i've met in taiwan have been pretty cool and nice people
i'd say 99 out of 100 foreigners in taiwan are pretty cool and nice people
it's unfortunate we ran into that 1 that's just a total ass and an arrogant moron
we were out drinking a few days ago and the table next to us were a bunch of english speaking folks which included this austin powers look-alike old british guy
he seemed pretty grumpy and moody and kept giving our group funny looks
was it because we are a bunch of "taike" and were speaking taiwanese
for whatever's worth, their table was the loudest in the whole place... we were nowhere near their uproar
anyways, one thing led to another as i was walking by their table going back to my seat, austin powers ended up standing right in front of me and we were looking at each other
i gave him a nod and said "hey, how's it going dude?"
his response in a very heavy british accent and loud voice "I'M NOT A DUDE!" (so, are you a bitch then?)
he then quickly turned around and took a seat at his table, so i just ignored him and went back to my seat
a few seconds later, i looked towards austin powers and he was just throwing a fit and berating to his group "I'M NOT A DUDE!", then followed by "WHAT THE FUCK!?" and mimicking me in a chinese accent "how's it going duuuude?" and going on and on about being called a dude
ok there DUDE
i wanted to confront him but we were having a good time and really why let some loser ruin the night for us?
yea, you are really cool and above all of us because you speak english?
yea, well... i do too... so???
go eat a spotted dick and choke on it
Monday, March 26, 2007
Saturday, March 24, 2007
yup, i'm back in macau again for the second time in 5 days
flew in this morning and flying back out to taiwan in a couple hours
especially since i have a pretty bad hangover
headache, dizziness, nausea, backache, muscle pains... you name it
basically i've been feeling like shit all day long
lesson of the day... if you have to wake up at 6am to catch a flight, do not stay out drinking until 2:30am
Thursday, March 22, 2007
as you can tell from the past couple posts, i was just in macau not too long ago
i didn't stay there that long either
just a bit over 2 hours to be exact
landed in macau around 11am on tuesday (3/20), flew back to taiwan around 1:20pm
i ended up being awake for over 35 hours
the reason for the short stay in macau is because i was playing the role of delivery boy
i had to personally deliver some parts for our factory in china
our engineer for this project came out to macau to meet me, took the parts and rushed off to the factory
why not use a courier like dhl or fedex you are asking?
because there was simply no time
so why was i up for over 35 hours?
because i was out in our factory in taiwan with our crew trying to make good enough parts for china to use
we were there until 5:30am when we finally made enough good parts
as soon as i got them, i went home, packed the stuff, took a shower and rushed off to the airport to try to hop on the earliest possible flight out to macau
i got there at 7:50am
i missed the 6am and the 8am flights
8:55am flight it was
i was some expensive delivery boy too
the flight cost nt$18,000 (approx. us$550)
regularly, flights to macau are under nt$10,000 (approx. under us$310)
if we had used a courier service to deliver the parts, it would probably cost $550 as well... nt$ tho', but it would arrive the next day, and that's not even guaranteed
there was simply no time
when i flew back to taiwan i went back to work instead of going home
it was only 3pm when i got back and if i go home i would definitely fall asleep and wake up in the middle of the night
by the time i got off work, went home, took care of some errands and went to sleep it was 9:30pm
which makes that a bit over 35 hours since i last slept
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
Tuesday, March 20, 2007
well, here i am at the macau international airport once again
as usual, whenever i'm here... i come to the chinatrust vip loung to grab some grub, a few drinks and use the internet
i'm flying back to taiwan in about an hour
even tho' i just landed in macau about an hour ago from taiwan
i haven't slept in more than 28 hours... and counting
well, what can you do?
gotta do whats gotta get done
Monday, March 19, 2007
Sunday, March 18, 2007
and just like that, it has been a year
and what a year it has been
happy one year wedding anniversary pumpkin
now, let's go back...
our "love story"... http://www.yuni.com.tw/ka-love-story.wmv
pre-wedding photos... http://www.yuni.com.tw/ka-wed-pics.wmv
wedding ceremony / reception photos (part 1)... http://www.fotop.net/tinayann/wedding060318
wedding ceremony / reception photos (part 2)... http://www.fotop.net/flair/wed0318photo
Saturday, March 17, 2007
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
Monday, March 12, 2007
Sunday, March 11, 2007
congratulations to eva and aaron
they got married yesterday and we attended their reception dinner party last night
it was a very traditional affair with "strippers" and all
the most important thing, i got him back!
got my revenge!
you see, here in taiwan when you get married, at the reception dinner party, your friends will make a special drink for you
last year when i got married, aaron contributed to my drink and last night i returned the favor
his drink started with a half cup of scotch whiskey
we then passed that cup around the table and everyone had to add something to it
when it was all said and done, the drink had scotch whiskey, beer, guava juice, soy sauce, green tea, chicken soup, jell-o, vegetable broth and a dab of wasabi plus a couple other ingredients that i don't remember
here's the end result...
my drink at my wedding was pretty horrible too
when i was done with it, it even had fish skin and bones in it
aaron almost threw up after he drank it
well, no sympathy from me
been there, done that
you only get married once in a lifetime (well, i hope and wish it's only once for everyone>
best wishes aaron
a vid of one of the strippers
aaron's dad chugging down a bottle of beer... the old man can drink!
getting ready to drink "the drink"
smelling it before drinking it... it smelled funky!
just about ready to throw up
drunk aaron up on stage singing karaoke... good times
Saturday, March 10, 2007
i rarely go to the movie theatres nowadays to watch a movie
i only go if i feel the movie is worthwhile and warrants the big screen and the sound system
basically, dramas and comedies are a big no-no
action movies only
last night i saw these trailers...
that looked epic
looks like the movie theatres will get my patronage for the first time in a few months
Friday, March 09, 2007
i am not cool in the i'm cool sense
no, i ain't cool like that
i am cool in the i'm freezing my ass off sense
yes, i'm cool like that
it's been raining non-stop for the past 6 days with the temperature dropping to the low teens celsius (mid-50's fahrenheit)
yea, you canadian and american folks are probably laughing your asses off
"you wimp, that ain't shit", i hear y'all saying
i don't care... i am freezing my ass off
this is already too cold for me
i hate the cold
i've never been good dealing with the cold and all this rain doesn't help either
"but... but... but you grew up in canada???" some of you who know me might say
in canada we had heaters... throughout and everywhere
the plug-in heaters here are no good
plus it ain't like i can carry that around everywhere i go
the point is...
just ranting and that i hate this weather and that i'm fucking cold
Thursday, March 08, 2007
Tuesday, March 06, 2007
the past couple days have been cold and wet
quite a change from the past week, when it was warm and sunny
that was the case this past saturday
just a beautiful day
we had planned to go meet some friends for a few drinks that night but had nothing planned during the day
so we were sitting there at home bored with nothing to do
we didn't want to waste the beautiful sunny day knowing that it was gonna start to get cold and rainy the next day lasting a whole week
so off to zhonghe we went to hike up hongduli (烘爐地)
a little panorama collage i did with a series of photos i took of the view up there... click on image above to enlarge